ANAKURU BASED MASSEUSE TALKS ABOUT THE INTRIGUES OF HER JOB, CLIENTS WITH SINISTER MOTIVES AND HOW THEY DEAL WITH MALE CLIENTS WHO ARE AROUSED SEXUALLY
- What is your typical day in the office?
My day is just like any other normal work-day in the office or a company. I report to work on Monday to Saturday to attend to clients who need my services. Sunday is my time to relax and have time with my God in my local church. This will enable me regain strength for the following week.
- Do masseuses go for training?
Yes, professional masseuses go for training to enable them do their work effectively and properly. After these trainings, you will get certificates depending on the level of the training such as certificate, diploma or advanced diploma. Masseuse courses are offered in various beauty colleges such as Vera Beauty College, Ashley’s Beauty College etc.
- Some people believe that massage parlors are sanitized brothels. How true is this?
This is not true because if one massage parlor gets involved in such rendezvous, it doesn’t mean that all of them are like that. It is just like any other industry where you will always find some crooks who decide to do their own things. But I tell you there are professional masseuses parlous where staff follow highest code of conduct and only do what they are required to do, nothing beyond that.
- What happens when a client has other ideas?
As a professional staff, we are trained on how to keep boundaries and only do what we are supposed to do. If a client has other ideas as you are saying and opts to express them, I will always decline to provide what is not on our menu.
- Have you encountered incidences of rape in your parlor?
No, I have never experienced such an incident. Most of our clients are good people who know what they want and what they can get from our parlor. I don’t even think that a right thinking client can come to elicit for sex in a massage parlor, instead, those interested in sex can go where they can get it, whether in sex dens, lodgings etc.
- Why do Kenyans need body massage?
Many Kenyans need body massage when they need relaxation, to relieve stress, deal with depression and even to be aroused sexually( for those with low sex drive or sexual dysfunction). Indeed, this is a good way of relaxing your body muscles and for those who have stress or depression, then body massage is always recommended. Still, there are also those who get referred by doctors to our services either for the above reasons, muscle alignment or any other health condition. There are also those who need the services for their own enjoyment.
- Is it true that most men who visit your parlous are those with family problems?
For your information, I do have both men and women seeking my services. I have also already stated why Kenyans seek body massage. Although I am not in a position to know whether a client visiting my shop has family issues, part of our training involves talking and encouraging clients who confide in us the various problems they go through even in their family settings. A client will feel relieved if he finds someone to confide as this is one way of relieving stress/depression. However, I have come across cases of clients who come to us just to be “touched” by people of the opposite sex due to negligence on the part of their partners. Maybe, their partners have ignored them for long and so they need a feminine or masculine touch in the name of looking for body massage.
- What should a client do if he is aroused sexually during massage?
The client can always go to his or her partner and have sex with him or her. Indeed, there are people with sexual problems who visit our services for sexual stimulation. However, this has never been part of our menu but it may arise naturally during body massage process.
- What embarrassing moments have you ever faced in your job?
There are many a time when male clients want to caress me or even kiss me because of being aroused sexually but I always advice him against that and stick to my boundaries. As a professional masseuse, I know what to do in such a case and most importantly how to maintain boundaries.
- What do you like most in this job?
I am introduced to new people almost every day and the fact that I am able to understand challenges men and women go through in their marriages from those who confide such problems in us. This has enlightened me on what men and women need from their partners as well as the effect of being neglected or avoided by your partner.
- Is your family comfortable with what you do?
Yes, they have no problem with what I do since this is the source of my daily bread. They consider it as any other legal job in the market.
- What can you tell Kenyans with negative perceptions about massage parlous?
They should get proper information regarding what massage parlous do. They also need to understand that every market has a mad person and so is this industry. Although there are few people who may do wrong things and tarnish the names of massage parlors, there are many that are adhering to the professional code of conduct.
- Why is it that most Men clients want to be attended to by ladies while women clients want to be attended to by men?
This is the decision of individual clients and we have no right to dictate or control that. If you have a shop and a client tells you he or she wants milk or bread from a specific brand, would you ask him or her reasons?
- Some people have argued that your charges are unnecessarily high, what is your take on that?
Our charges are reasonable taking into account our professionalism and quality services we offer.
- What have you learned from your job about married men and women who need your services?
Well, I have learned that men particularly can be very weak in controlling their sexual urge when they are left for long without sex or when their partners neglects them.
- Do you have low or high season?
Definitely yes, holidays, weekends and festivities periods are our peak period
- Your last take?
Kenyans need to understand that Beauty and Massage Parlous are legalized businesses whose services are important for a diversity of Kenyans. As much as there are some crooks in this industry, there are many beauty and massage parlous that offer only professional services to clients.